Part I: Questions for Further Investigation
1. Why does Jane refuse to marry without affection?
2. Why does Mrs. Austen place so much pressure on Jane to accept Mr. Wisley’s proposal?
3. How does this marriage debate relate to her own life choices?
4. If you were Jane, would you appease your family by marrying for money over happiness?
5. What would you tell Jane to console her during this troublesome situation?
6. Who else in the movie deals with unwanted restrictions on their lives?
Part II: Personal Reflections
Share your responses to the questions below and offer advice as to how to confront unwanted or unwarranted expectations.
1. What do family members and friends expect from you?
2. Do you feel pressure to look or behave in a certain way? Why?
3. What does society expect of you now? In the future?
4. How do you react to these expectations? Do you accept them or rebel against them?
5. What do you expect from others?
6. Do you ever pressure other people into doing things? Why?
7. What do you expect from your close family members and friends?
8. Do you feel your expectations are fair and realistic? Why or why not?
9. What do you expect out of yourself? What goals do you wish to attain in the near or distant future?
I feel like Mrs. Austen puts so much pressure on Jane to marry Mr. Wisley is because she married for love and as she said, she has to “pick her own potatoes” so I think she wants Jane to live a very comfortable life. I also think she wants Jane to marry him because their family was always in debt and they were never really in clear so I think that she wanted Jane to be happy and she thought to be happy she needed the money and to have that you need a rich husband. I also feel like if she married and suddenly had money, she could help out with her family and paid off their debt and help them live a more comfortable life. I think if I were Jane, I would marry for money. Hopefully the man would be nice and I could live a comfortable and nice life. I think if I married for love at that time to a man that didn’t have a lot of money, it would be nice at first but I think it would maybe end up like Mr. and Mrs. Austen. I just think that for me, it would be better if I married for money instead of love during that time. I feel like my expectations for others are different for every person, but the baseline is the same. You are kind to other people and just generally a nice person to people who deserve your kindness. I think some expectations are okay, like expecting your teachers to know what they are going to be teaching you that day. But I think there are bad expectations to have like succeeding every time you try something or expecting everything to be easy for you. I think for me, I expect myself to try my best at everything even if it’s not perfect. I think when I have expectations for myself, they are pretty realistic and attainable. Hopefully in the future when I have expectations for myself, I have the same mindset as I do now. That my expectations are real and achievable and if I don’t meet them I can work toward meeting them.
ReplyDeleteI. 4. If I were Jane I think I would appease my family and marry for money instead of happiness because I feel like I would understand that in the end, my quality of life would be what is really being sacrificed. If you think about it, if you marry for happiness then you’ll be happy with your marriage and who you marry but your life may not be as great because it won’t come as easily as it had while growing up. If you marry for money, however, you may not be in love, but you most likely won’t be entirely unhappy and you would learn how to get along with whoever you marry. You also would have an easier life and you wouldn’t have to work. Nowadays, working for your money isn’t unreasonable, but to a person who has never worked a day in their life, it can really be a hard transition. So there are pros and cons to both situations but I think at the end of the day the pros of marrying for money outweigh the cons.
ReplyDelete5. I think I would tell Jane during this troublesome situation that it isn’t the end of the world. At this time, it was most likely one of the most common tough situations that people had to deal with. Everyone had to figure out what was best for themselves and sometimes that means leaving the person they love to find a better life for themselves and in the end, the person they’re leaving behind.
II. 3,4. I think society expects all teens in high school to just focus on school and get good grades, but they also want us to be busy 24/7 with sports and jobs but yet they ignore the stress this constant business causes. I feel like as a girl, even in today’s society, I am expected to get a simple job that may not pay much because it doesn’t matter because someday I’ll get married and my husband can support me. To girls, even though the world has changed so much, I feel as if there are still those stereotypes which will always be present in some way. People expect me to get married and have a simple, happy life. I don’t think these expectations are fair because I feel like everyone has every right to make the most of my life and try to get into a good college. While some of those expectations society has for me may happen, others may not. Not everyone in society should be expected to be this perfect cookie cutter person because then, life would be boring and everyone would be the same. People need to be their own person and make their own decisions based on what’s going to make them happy.
I really enjoyed the film Becoming Jane. I think they did a really good job staying true to Jane Austen’s character. Mrs. Austen places so much pressure on Jane to accept Mr. Wisley’s proposal because the family is quickly losing money and they need the money earned from the marriage to save the family name. I think that Jane realises this, but can’t put her heart before her family's status. Jane wants to marry because she loves the other person, not because she has to. I think if I were Jane Austen I probably would have gave in and married a wealthy person, even if I didn’t love them. Just because to me family comes first. I think it would put a serious strain on my family if money was tight. I would rather not have to worry all the time. Then I can consider what I expect out of myself. My expectation is that I work hard and treat others with respect and that I have fun! I I don’t expect more out of myself than others. In terms of goals, I want to graduate from high school and get into college. Then also moving on to finishing up my yoga teacher training. I work hard at what I want and I definitely see that in Jane Austen as well. She does what she believes in. Which I think is admirable. I think my expectations and goals are pretty attainable and realistic. Nothing is really extreme. For the time, Ms. Austen's goals were extreme, but I think she knew what she was doing all along.
ReplyDeleteJanes refuses to marry without affection because she has seen how a marriage without love works. She grew up in a household full of tension between the two people who are supposed to be the ones who set examples for what you should look for in future relationships. She also grew up in a time where all women were supposed to do was get married and have children. I think she also realizes how draining it is to be in a relationship without love because she has seen the stress put on her mother because her mother never sees eye to eye with her father. This shows how looks really aren’t everything and won’t make your life better in the long run.
ReplyDeleteI think Mrs. Austen places so much pressure on Jane to accept Mr. Wisley’s proposal because they are a time crunch because the father was getting older and without him they have nothing because they had no sons. During this time it was also society’s expectation that as a woman you would get married and have children and it was shameful to you and your family if you weren’t married. It was looked at like something was wrong with you if you weren’t married by a certain age. I do think that the main driver for the marriage was the money because without it they would have no financial stability.
A lot has changed since then; now friends and family expect different things. Family expects you to do well in school and eventually go off to college to follow your dreams so that eventually one day you could have a family and support them. They also expect that when you are in school you participate in things out of school; whether it be sports or clubs or work it has to be something to keep you busy. Friends now just want time and support, in my opinion. Society still does have pressures to have a family but I think the rush against time has stopped. It is now more common for people to finish with school and to have steady jobs before they start a family and get married.
1. Mrs. Austen placed a lot of pressure on Jane to accept Mr. Wisley’s proposal for one main reason. Jane’s mother wanted her daughter to marry someone who has a lot of wealth so she won’t have to worry about money. If Jane were to marry Mr. Lefroy then they would be very poor. Mrs. Austen doesn’t want her daughter to struggle with money so she wants her to marry someone who can give her a comfortable life. Jane’s family never had a lot of money either so her mother hoped if she was to marry Mr. Wisley their wealth could benefit her own family.
ReplyDelete4. If I was Jane I too would marry someone with a lot of wealth so I wouldn’t have to worry about money. Being a woman in this time period was very difficult because you couldn’t make your own living. All of your wealth would have to come from based on the person you married. Even if the man isn’t the one she truly loves it would be in her best interest to marry for money as long as the man is nice.
1. What society expects of us is too do well in school and graduate college with a degree. Society wants all young adults to succeed in their education and grow up to be or do something you like. However, not all people want to attend college and rather work for a profession that doesn’t require a degree. I believe society will expect the same in the future.
8. I personally believe these expectations are realistic and accomplishable. I do want to attend a college that will get me a degree so I can become what I want to. I set high expectations so I always have a goal to strive for.
Nick Criniti
ReplyDeleteThe movie Becoming Jane I thought was a really good watch. While we were watching it in class I got sucked into the movie and in my opinion I thought that it explained Janes life very well. To answer some of these questions first of all I thought that Miss Austen putting pressure on Jane to accept Mr. Wisley's proposal made tons of sense. Janes family doesn't have the greatest in wealth and all Miss Austen wants is for her family to have money again and they cant have that without Jane or her sister marrying wealthy. In my opinion Jane chooses not to marry without affection because she wants someone to marry her for who she is and she wants someone to marry her that understands and is in the same boat as Jane is. I don't feel pressured to look or behave a certain way because we are all special in our own ways and being your self is the best version of yourself you can be and I would never change that. My family expects me to be the great person that I am and always try your best and work your hardest because the outcome will be in your favor.
1. Why does Jane refuse to marry without affection?
ReplyDeleteAustin believes that people should have good love in their lives. The love that she wants is based on discussing literature and appreciating one another. Apparently, Wesley, who is not satisfied with Austin's requirements, is too restrained. When he dances, he stepped on Austin's foot; when he played the ball, he made a bad impression. He even made the marriage proposal with caution. The only good thing he could say about himself was his considerable income and his aunt's property heir. In the face of property and love, Austin would prefer the latter. In the contest between emotion and reason, reason loses to emotion.
In respect to her feelings for Tom, Austin did not have the ending of Elizabeth and Darcy’s reunion. In consideration of Tom's reputation, Austin finally chose to let him go. The film directly arranged for the two to meet. When we knew that Tom named her eldest daughter "Jane", we knew that Austin had never regressed to a marriage that lacked love. Because of her persistence and faith, Austin prefers to be single and is not willing to be with someone she has no feeling for. Because she was afraid that she would marry someone she does not love before she meets her true love, she waited so long and did not marry for the rest of her life.
4. If you were Jane, would you appease your family by marrying for money over happiness?
At the beginning of "Pride and Prejudice", there is a quote "It is a TRUTH universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife." Such a bachelor frequently moves to new places, so his neighbors do not know him well. However, since “this universal truth” has long been ingrained in people's minds, the bachelor’s neighbors always desire him as their daughter’s suitor because of his wealth and property. This belief was also stated at the end of "Becoming Jane". I think it is ridiculous at first glance. How can there be such a thing happening? Although Austin made this conclusion 190 years ago, a thousand years later, people still believe this irrefutable truth.
A woman does not just marry the man, but more, his property, his career, and the sum of all his social relationships. Because of this, love is never just a personal matter, it is about the social relationships between the parents and the two sides. There will always be a man who feels that it is not easy to be a man. For a man to find a woman with good conditions, the woman’s requirements are basically the same: the man must have a car and a house. Therefore, most men already feel that they can just look for a beautiful poor girl to marry because she not only has these requirements but at times will worship him for them.
So what about women? It is not her own willingness to become utilitarian and material, it is this society that has changed her. The middle and upper-class women are able to support themselves. Naturally, their requirements for boys are less. Only working-class women pursue wealth, as their desires are rising year by year. She is looking forward to a richer and even more extravagant life, at least better than now. One could only imagine the pressures on a man to be with this kind of woman.
1. What do family members and friends expect from you?
My family only wants me to be healthy and then admitted to a good university. My friends hope that I can be happy every day.
9. What do you expect out of yourself? What goals do you wish to attain in the near or distant future?
My biggest wish in the near future is to finish the college essay and submit the Early Decision application.
I enjoyed this movie as I think it incorporated multiple scenes from Jane’s books like Pride and Prejudice. I think that the other character in the movie that deals with unwanted restrictions is Laffroy. Laffroy’s uncle wanted him to marry someone wealthy and act professionally at all times in order for him to get his uncle’s fortune. Laffroy however, wanted to marry and run away with Jane, something that his uncle highly dispised of. He didn’t care that Jane had no fortune behind her, he was going against the norms during that time period, which is that you should marry someone of large fortune. If I was Jane, I probably wouldn’t appease my family by marrying someone for money over happiness. If I did, I feel like I would regret it as I’d have to deal with that person’s personality and actions all the time. Family and friends have pretty high expectations for me. They expect me to maintain great grades and apply to very difficult and challenging colleges. They also expect me to be myself and do whatever I really want to do in life. I accept these expectations as they are what I grew up on. I must get good grades and do well, and honestly, it is not a difficult task as long as I do my work and try to succeed.
ReplyDeleteQuestion 5: Personally, if I were to advise Jane on this situation I would try and show her both sides of the equation. To start, I would acknowledge her family’s financial situation and position in the current time. It’s not something that should be the determining factor, but it’s something to keep in mind. Cassandra’s fiance is dead, and unless Henry is massively successful her and Cassandra will need to find husbands in order to survive. On the other hand though, I would also acknowledge that should she want to find a husband it’s important for her to find someone who loves her as much as she loves them. Love is one of the most powerful emotions in the human psyche. It can make us both happy and sad. It’s a power that needs to be respected, but not entirely neglected. Marrying without love is tough for someone, because it doesn’t feel right at all. I couldn't even dare try to marry without love because it would feel very awkward and restrictive. In the end, her two options are love, or marry to help her family. I would end by telling her that the choice is indeed hers, but it’s not worth taking the risk of not marrying at this time.
ReplyDeleteQuestion 6: I’m almost 100% certain that nobody can deny LeFroy is the one who deals with an unwanted restriction on his life. His Uncle is pretty much the sole determining factor as to whether or not his family lives or dies. If LeFroy screws up, his family members are done for. He has to essentially be a people pleaser in public, and can not afford to have a public mistake. Private ones perhaps he could pull off, but one made public such as a possible marriage to Jane would indeed be a detriment to his ability to acquire his Uncle’s wealth. He has a choice here, but there’s a massive illusion of it. It’s pretty obvious by the end of the movie that Tom is a good man, and he doesn’t want to let his family down. He wants them to be able to live a good life, and he can’t stand them suffering. Had Tom’s family not inadvertently held him down, he may have been able to marry Jane, and possibly committed worse actions than what he had to do to supply his family.
Question 5 Part II: For me, I would say I have high expectations in some regards, but in others I do not. I don’t necessarily expect my peers to act like adults, yet very frequently I feel out of touch with modern day culture. I’ve expressed it before, but I feel like I’m someone from fifty years ago rather than I am someone from the 2000’s. I have high moral expectations for people, all of which I would say are very fair and just. These morals mainly are based off principles, both philosophical and religious. Jesus taught to “hate the sin” and to “love our neighbors.” I like to abide by that one because it makes me feel as though I treat people fairly, and I’d hope others would as well. As for philosophical expectations, the biggest one for me is the belief of individual justice and “innocence until proven guilty.” I personally believe that we have striven so far away from that moral belief, because it means we can automatically assume guilt even if it turns out they’re not guilty. Those who then presume they aren’t guilty are then shunned and hated from what I’ve seen in modern society no matter where it is you go politically. People on the right will hate you if you say Joe Biden is innocent, and people on the left will hate you for saying Brett Kavanaugh is innocent. Not all people will obviously, but it’s gotten to the point where more and more people are just disregarding this societal principle that all of us would be beginning to have graced on us should we be put in their situations. The final expectation that I have is the expectation of work ethics, and of hard work. I won’t deny that I have been an offender of my my own beliefs, but I will state I personally believe that hard work gets people where they want to be in life. Hard work though has been increasingly difficult to achieve as a result of new products that I personally believe have both ruined our chances at putting in hard work and made us addicted to putting hard work in the wrong places. I spoke to my Dad about the issue of my expectations at one point, and he told me that I’m just like my Uncle and him. All of us seem to try and reflect ourselves onto people and as a result we don’t understand why people act the way they do. I would hope others feel the same as I, yet it is their right to disagree. However, I will stand by my expectations as I feel more moral doing so.
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DeleteQuestion 9 Part II: What I expect out of myself is quite simple, yet very complex at the same time. I expect someone who is able to take on challenges even in the most dire of situations, and be prepared to come out on top from them. The problem with my mind is that it’s always constantly active, and if it doesn’t have a task that it needs to get done then and there it won’t get done for a while. That I would argue is a weakness of mine. My main goal is to get into the United States Military Academy at West Point, and this is because I know it’s perfect for me. Challenges would be thrown at me constantly, requiring me to have my mind always active. This benefits me significantly. That, and an organized schedule where I am required to get what’s necessary done then and there significantly improves my capabilities. I want to be an officer. I want to lead, and I want to serve my country. The only issue is that unfortunately, I have done my research, and according to the DOD I would classify as a permanent disqualification for my Asperger’s Syndrome, unless I’m able to get a waiver. I know myself though, and I know I’m gonna fight my ass off to get that damn thing if I need to. The phrase “give up” and the word “surrender” are not in my vocabulary. Failure is not something I tolerate. I expect to always stay moral in this situation though, and even as a soldier I expect to abide by international law as well as my own moral codes, unless it becomes absolutely necessary to break said moral codes. In my own words, I will not give up, I will not give in, for if I do the worst will come to tuition and nothing will be able to stop it. I see myself as a force of good, one that is very powerful to say the least. I learn from any sort of failure that occurs on my part, and oftentimes I’m able to prevent history from repeating itself, with a few exemptions of course. My country needs a man like me though, and I’m going to let the military’s outdated psychological standards hold me back. I’m gonna fight them to get in if I have to, because I know I’m meant for this.
Paul Yannalfo
(I)4. If I were Jane, I think I would marry for money over happiness. Because I really value my family, even other myself. I wish by marrying into a wealthy family, it could eventually aid my family financially.
ReplyDelete6. Besides Jane and the girls, Thomas Lefroy also deals with unwanted restrictions in his life. Although they didn’t specifice in the film, but the letter which Thomas received reveals that his family was in great poverty. The reason why Thomas goes boxing and press on his uncle for allowance all becomes clear. He had been sending the money he made from his uncle and boxing back home, so that he could support his poor family.
Jane discovering the letter was a big turning point. All the impressions Thomas had made on Jane and the audience have completely turned upside down. As Jane said to Thomas, “Your profligacy is a beautiful shame.”, and it truly his. Even at the end he had to give up the love of his life and marry another woman in his uncle’s favor.
(II)1. My parents don't have high expectations from me nor my brother. We don’t have to have good grades, successful career or earn lots of money. What’s important to them is the well-being of our health, being polite and respectful, and just be happy for who you are. And for that I’m really grateful for my parents, for being open minded with the things I value.
Grace
believe Jane Austen refuses to marry without affection because she doesn't want her marriage to fail later on. Also, she doesn't want to be stuck in a relationship with someone she doesn't really like. When Janes Father is talking to her about marrying Mr. Wisley Jane refers to him as a “Boobie” and says she would rather be happily married and poor then marry him and be unhappy.
ReplyDeleteIn “Becoming Jane” Mr. Lefroy also has unwanted restrictions in his life. Mr. Lefroy is living with his uncle to study law therefor he has to follow his uncle's rules. At the beginning of the film, Mr. Lefroy was sent to the country by his uncle to spend time with his cousins because he was misbehaving. Mr. Lefroy was sent to the country against his will because he lives with his uncle and has to follow his rules. More towards the end of the film when Jane and Mr. Lefroy go back to London to ask his uncle if they can be married. His uncle says no and there is nothing Mr.Lefroy can do about it because his uncle controls his life and he also needs his allowance to support his family.
In my life, my family and friends expect a lot from me. My family expects that I will try hard in school, be kind to everyone and try hard to do the best that I can at everything I do. My friends expect that I will be kind and helpful to them. I expect the same things from my friend and family that they expect of me.
I believe that what my friends and family expect of me is very fair because thats also what I expect from them. I also believe what my friends and family expect from me is because they want me to succeed in life and make the best of it. I do not believe at all that any of my expectations are unfair and I fully agree with all of them.
I think Jane refuses to marry without affection because she does not want to have to go through everyday knowing she only married for wealth. If I were Jane I would have done the same thing and only married if we loved each other. Mrs. Austen puts a lot of pressure on Jane to marry Mr. Wisley because this will benefit their family. Mr. Wisley was a wealthy guy who could help support the Auestens. This shows Jane is a strong independent woman who can make decisions and do things for herself. Again if I were Jane even though family is a big part of my life I would still marry for happiness. I would not want to spend everyday of my life with my husband whom I don't even like. I would tell Jane she is doing the right thing sticking to her character because if she married for money the rest of her life would not be as great as it could have been. Jane's sister Cassandra in the movie has to deal with the loss of her husband. This is not what she wanted to happen and she did not know what she was going to do financially.
ReplyDeleteMy family members expect me to stick to my core values because they want me to be happy. I do not feel any pressure to look or behave a certain way because I would want someone who would love me for me. Society expects that most men make the money for the family which is not the case anymore. Many women in our society today have great jobs and have great incomes. I expect others to respect my decisions and I will respect theirs. I never pressure anyone into doing anything because I respect everyone's boundaries. The expectations I have for my family and friends is to respect my decisions and if I am happy they should be happy for me too. My expectations are realistic because all I ask is for everyone to be themselves. I hope throughout the rest of my life I stick to my character and stay true to my values.
Maddy Francis
Why does Jane refuse to marry without affection?
ReplyDeleteJane doesn’t marry without affection because she doesn't want to live her entire life unhappy with someone who doesn’t love her. She would marry a wealthy man and have all the money in the world but not be happy because they don’t love each other and Jane is against this future.
Who else in the movie deals with unwanted restrictions on their lives?
In the movie there are at least 4 other characters that have unwanted restrictions on their lives, Mr. Wisely, Mr. LeFroy, and Mr. and Mrs. Austen. Mr. Wisely has been under enormous pressure by Lady Gressum to marry so he can inherit her money. He doesn’t want to rush his marriage and like jane, wants to marry for love. Mr. LeFroy has been doing everything he can to help support his family but he loves jane. But if he marries Jane then he and his family will suffer. He loves Jane so much that he can’t even see this future and Jane herself has to stop their relationship before it destroyed his family. Mr. and Mrs. Austin do indeed love each other, but because of their financial situation they are as miserable as a rich family that doesn’t love each other. I believe this is what motivates Jane to end her relationship with Mr. LeFroy
Do you feel your expectations are fair and realistic? Why or why not?
I feel that expectations are not fair because everyone is different in their own rights. No matter where you are or what family you are apart of everyone is different and everyone should have the right to be whoever they want to be and not altered from different expectations.
What do family members and friends expect from you?
What my family expects from me is achieved good grades and get a good job after college. These are fair expectations for me and I hope to achieve the same goals. My friends expectations are slightly less agreeable than that of my family’s. I am expected to want to do everything that they want to do all the time. Although I do agree with most of my friends desires, there are times when I would like to do what I want and this point of view is not always shared.
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ReplyDelete2. During the scene when Jane is telling her mother that she wants to marry Mr. LeFroy, her mother is adamant about wanting her to marry Mr. Wisley, solely for the fact that Mr. Wisely has wealth as that doesn’t apply to Mr. LeFroy. Not to mention this is all while Jane’s mother is working on the garden, something that she wouldn’t have to be doing if she married into wealth; she went down the path of love instead of financial stability and now regrets it and just wants Jane to make the decision she never made.
4. If I were Jane, I would understand why my family would want me to marry for wealth, but at the same time maybe not listening if I didn’t feel like a healthy marriage would be possible. Nowadays it’s easy to say that Jane would probably appease her family over marrying someone for money, because the culture has changed to where it’s not significant or the norm to marry for wealth, but for love. Either way Jane didn’t have an easy decision to make, especially because she was aware about what it was like not marrying for wealth, and that she probably wouldn’t be able to live the same comfortable life she once did.
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2. To a certain extent, I feel like there's a need to look and behave a certain way to conform to culture and society as a whole. For when I was growing up, I was taught how to act and behave a certain way to fit the culture I was raised in, whether it was manners, or how to greet someone; so just on how I was raised, I feel the need to behave a certain way in the society we live in.
6. Sometimes I will try to pressure someone into doing something if I think it will overall benefit them. I try to sympathize or understand where the other person is coming from if they’re making a decision that may invoke some persuasion, but sometimes I think we try to make decisions for others that for us may seem to be the best, but it may not be the best option for them.
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ReplyDeleteJane refuses to marry without affection because she doesn’t believe in marrying just for social and economic benefits. Jane sees marriage as a very important decision to be made in life that should not just be looked at by numbers on paper. Instead, she believes that in order to live her life as a happy woman, she needs to be with people who make her happy. Also, her parents married each other out of affection, so wanting to marry out of affection is something that she was raised up around.
Mrs. Austen tries her hardest to get Jane to accept the marriage proposal brought to her by Mr. Wisley because she believes Jane can do better than how she ended up. She married Jane’s father out of affection and for a long time everything turned out alright. However, over time they both realized that marrying out of love for your spouse is very tough on the fortune, especially when neither of the people in the relationship were particularly well off beforehand. So, Mrs. Austen tries to explain to Jane that marrying for affection is good at times, but the more important thing to her is seeing her daughter living comfortably instead of having to do her own chores around the property due to money being low.
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My family, especially my parents, expect me to be very successful in life and to do the right thing at all times. As the first born in my family, a lot of expectations were laid on me to be the best human being I can possibly be, as I am representing the entire family. So, my parents expect me to do very well in school as well as be involved with sports and friends outside of school so I do not just stay in my house all the time. When it comes to expectations from my friends, I am expected to be kind and a person they can rely on when things aren’t going well for them. For example, if one of my friends were to be having a bad day, they rely on my to be there for them and to try and help make their day better.
5. The only thing I expect from others is to be kind and supportive of their friends and to try to make society better overall. I believe that if everybody is constructive of each other and supportive, the only outcome that is possible is positive. I also don’t see a point in bringing others down because it typically has no benefit for the person who is putting others down. To add on, I have seen the effects of being supportive of other people first hand as this year’s football team has treated every single member like a family and now, we are on track to have the most wins in a season for Andover in over 3 years. So, I truly believe that if people live to my expectations and just try to help others and be kind to them, many positive things will come from it.
Matt Gaetano
ReplyDeleteI think the movie “Becoming Jane” was a pretty good movie. It explored her life very accurately, in my opinion. I especially liked how it mimicked the general story of “Pride and Prejudice”. Here are some things that I noticed throughout the movie:
I. 1. I think Jane couldn’t have said it better: “Nothing can be compared to the misery of being bound without Love”. She believed that love should be true and genuine, not to increase family fortune. I really enjoyed the scene where Jane realizes what will happen to Mr. LeFroy if he marries her. Jane realizes that it will ruin Mr. LeFroy’s family if they get married.
I. 4. If I were Jane today, I know I would stick to her ideology. However, if I lived in her time and was stuck in her situation, I’m not sure what I would do. It is hard for me to decide because I would have grown up being taught that I would have to marry for money and I think I would be afraid of going against my parents if I decided to marry for love.
II. 2. I do feel a little bit of pressure when it comes to school. It is hard for me to think that I’m going to college in a year and I’m not yet looking forward to it just because of all of the things needed to get into a college. With all of this work comes stress, but also pressure from my family. I am always asked, “Where are you going for college” or, “Have you sent in your apps yet?”
II. 9. In the future, my most important goal is to be happy; whatever I need to go through to fulfill this, I am willing to do. I hope that I am happy from getting an enjoyable job and a great family.